Sometimes they say things happen because they have to happen and it cannot but happen! Im a believer and I must say I believe that everything that happens is only, and always only, for the good.
There is this book that I'm reading. Its on emotional intelligence, by the man who gave the world a better picture of the mind, Daniel Goleman. Im just a few chapters through his voluminous explanation of what thinking, seeing, feeling, loving, fighting, sharing, caring, enjoying, laughing, hurting, and all other gerunds you can think of... I'm stuck to it.
Im no psychologist. And the least I know of human nature is that one can think and act, be good or bad, be sane or insane and be kind or cruel. Well that neatly sums up what we generally do and don't do... But now Im happy Im reading this book. Im happier I have my friend Shiny who gave me this book.
Honestly, had I read this book four to five years back I would not have jumped into several complex situations that Im struggling to pull myself out from right now. But Im sure I slowly will. Its not the power of the book that I'm to believe, but the fact that it portrays that WE CAN when we know that there is nothing more sincere to us than OUR EMOTIONS. And these emotions are nothing but tiny triggers that make us what we are.
Understanding our emotions is the challenge. The sooner we do it, the better. That's what I feel. Lest we pass on unwanted elements to our children and blame it on everything else but us. I asked myself, if I can trigger a change in my life now, why not now? Why wait till I have no breath remaining in me? Well that could be any minute for that matter. Now... in 2012 or even in 2034!
Monday, May 31, 2010
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Manha
Guess what colour we selected to paint our nails with? Manha! Yes a sparkling canary yellow. Seemed very funny while we saw it standing next to the different other similar colours. There was a nice apple green, a shocking electric blue and a rather strange colour neither purple nor violet. Im happy this store didn't have many of the glittering ones!
Our mission was to get a colour to paint our nails to break the boredom of clean fresh ones Ria had to stick to for lessons on cleanliness. Well she got bored stiff with my lectures and finally I had to get her a bottle of nail polish, because all her friends had remanants of some fancy colours on their nails.
I opted for green as it looked earthy. Ri preffered the yellow. Seems out of the world to me, a little Martian kind! But after three days with it, it seems pretty acceptable. Isn't that a cosmic law? In any case it was not a bad buy at all. We painted first on Riz (please read that as reeeez) toe nails, which seemed quite OK and then her finger nails, which seemed "Hey, kinda coool!"
The best part of this buy was that Anna , my smaller one, learnt to say Manha, (Yellow, in Malayalam).(Pronounced : ma'nha - like the sound of 'ng' in orange) Energised with that revelation, we painted all her tiny nails and she went about saying manha, manha... Nice way to learn!!!
Show her a dry leaf now and she chweetly chirps Manha!
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Back from Dr Sunil's Eye World
Ria is extremely happy now that her eyes are clear and she is ready for school. Dr Sunil has prescribed only two eye drops for the wee bit of redness to leave her eyes.
We were advised to go in for the eye correction during the summer vacations as it would give Ria more time to relax and refresh her eye. The sequence therefore was school closing on 31 March, Surgery on 8th April and now all set for a new academic year after a neat month and a half!
Ria's case was not as complicated as the many cases Dr Sunil showed us from his research album. It was interesting that he made a collection of the pre and post conditions of most of his patients in image formats. He explained why the eyes were behaving in peculiar fashions and the different remedies too. Educated and trained with Gold Medals at Mumbai University and further at Glasgow, UK and Cambridge, Dr Sunil was the first surgeon to perform a live demonstration of no-injection key hole cataract surgery here in Kerala in 1999. A thorough learner and a good teacher, he has started an academy for optometry that provides various Diploma Courses recognized by the NCVTE.
His passion for teaching is evident in the way he explains everything in detail. The precision care recommended for eyes and everything to do about it, is palpable when he explains.We would have one more review post two weeks of school, as Dr Sunil would like to see how Ria's eyes are accomodating to long distance attention to blackboards.
After the four weeks rest with minimum TV, no books and no extreme lights, Ria's eyes are better now. She can now happily play on my mobile while I drive her up and down to all her happy destinations. One of which we are just back from; Dr Sunil's EyeWorld, Making vision Perfect.
Sr Florentia says...
Having spent a lot of my growing up time in a Boarding House run by Sisters, we were introduced to Please and Thank you at a very young age. “Please and Thank you are very powerful words,” Sr Florentia used to say. “It will take you to God and all those to whom you say it will follow you to Him,” she used to say with her beautiful round eyes shining on her beautiful round face. I often remember her and how we laughed at her stories.
And, now as a mother, I say the same to my daughter, and she laughs like how I used to. Well, it might take her many years to understand the depth of what is being communicated. But I’m sure she will pass it on to her children.
From my training as a teacher, and my life as a daughter, I have realised that there are many things that we pass on to children knowingly and unknowingly. The most important of these, I feel, is how we talk. Children invariably take after us. That’s nature’s choice. But what we want them to learn from us is our choice.
So as providers of food, clothes, shelter, education, safety and security to children, we parents have a huge role. Topping that list is as providers of good communicating habits. As shared by child experts, parent-child communication is one of the most important protective factors against risky behavior in children and further, risky behaviour in adults. No matter how old they are, talking with children is one of the most important things we can do to help them grow up as confident and secure individuals. Unless we communicate properly, we can’t get things done properly.
We can thus see that talking is a skill. "Something that classifies us as human beings," Sr Florentia used to say. Therefore shall we presume talking good is an art? Something that characterizes any person as a success!
Recently I grabbed an opportunity of sharing my views on Developing skills that can take us far on an invitation from a radio channel. My thanks to Mr PM Edwin Michael, the Programme Executive of All India Radio (Thrissur) for inviting me and for sharing the audio file.
Would now love to share this here, especially because, today is the International Family Day and there is a lot that we can give and take from one another in the family. Please click the green tab below to listen to my radio talk.
And, now as a mother, I say the same to my daughter, and she laughs like how I used to. Well, it might take her many years to understand the depth of what is being communicated. But I’m sure she will pass it on to her children.
From my training as a teacher, and my life as a daughter, I have realised that there are many things that we pass on to children knowingly and unknowingly. The most important of these, I feel, is how we talk. Children invariably take after us. That’s nature’s choice. But what we want them to learn from us is our choice.
So as providers of food, clothes, shelter, education, safety and security to children, we parents have a huge role. Topping that list is as providers of good communicating habits. As shared by child experts, parent-child communication is one of the most important protective factors against risky behavior in children and further, risky behaviour in adults. No matter how old they are, talking with children is one of the most important things we can do to help them grow up as confident and secure individuals. Unless we communicate properly, we can’t get things done properly.
We can thus see that talking is a skill. "Something that classifies us as human beings," Sr Florentia used to say. Therefore shall we presume talking good is an art? Something that characterizes any person as a success!
Recently I grabbed an opportunity of sharing my views on Developing skills that can take us far on an invitation from a radio channel. My thanks to Mr PM Edwin Michael, the Programme Executive of All India Radio (Thrissur) for inviting me and for sharing the audio file.
Would now love to share this here, especially because, today is the International Family Day and there is a lot that we can give and take from one another in the family. Please click the green tab below to listen to my radio talk.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Tintu mon
Representing the Kerala cadre of humour at its heights, is Tintu Mon... The very mention of his name would spread a natural smile across all who know this very popular name by now. Well he stars in every joke site, online, on mobile and off line sourced from malayalee hearts.
No wonder he is hailed as the Malayalee or regional incarnation of Sardarji with an extra rib to tickle... A recent sample in line with the Kasab's verdict, is of how the Judge passed one on Tintu Mon.
" Tintu Mon, you will be hung to death at 4.00 am tomorrow" to which Tintu Mon gleefully replied, "No problem Sir, I know that won't happen as I usually wake up only at 6".
Shared here are some more forwarded by my friend Ashok:
TEACHER : Tintumon, go to the map and find North America.
TINTUMON: Here it is!
TEACHER : Correct. Now class, who discovered America?
CLASS : TINTUMON!
TEACHER : Why are you late, Tintumon?
TINTUMON : Because of the sign.
TEACHER : What sign?
TINTUMON : The one that says, "School Ahead, Go Slow."
TEACHER: Tintumon, why are you doing your math multiplication on the floor?
TINTUMON : You told me to do it without using tables!
TEACHER : Tintumon, how do you spell "crocodile?"
TINTUMON : K-R-O-K-O-D- A-I-L"
TEACHER : No, that's wrong
TINTUMON : Maybe it s wrong, but you asked me how I spell it!
TEACHER : Tintumon, what is the chemical formula for water?
TINTUMON : H I J K L M N O!!
TEACHER : What are you talking about?
TINTUMON : Yesterday you said it's H to O!
TEACHER : Tintumon, name one important thing we have today that we
didn't have ten years ago.
TINTUMON : Me!
TEACHER : Tintumon, why do you always get so dirty?
TINTUMON : Well, I'm a lot closer to the ground than you are.
TEACHER : Can anybody give an example of COINCIDENCE?
TINTUMON: Sir, my Mother and Father got married on the same day, same time."
TEACHER: Tintumon, what do you call a person who keeps on talking when
people are no longer interested?
TINTUMON : A teacher.
No wonder he is hailed as the Malayalee or regional incarnation of Sardarji with an extra rib to tickle... A recent sample in line with the Kasab's verdict, is of how the Judge passed one on Tintu Mon.
" Tintu Mon, you will be hung to death at 4.00 am tomorrow" to which Tintu Mon gleefully replied, "No problem Sir, I know that won't happen as I usually wake up only at 6".
Shared here are some more forwarded by my friend Ashok:
TEACHER : Tintumon, go to the map and find North America.
TINTUMON: Here it is!
TEACHER : Correct. Now class, who discovered America?
CLASS : TINTUMON!
TEACHER : Why are you late, Tintumon?
TINTUMON : Because of the sign.
TEACHER : What sign?
TINTUMON : The one that says, "School Ahead, Go Slow."
TEACHER: Tintumon, why are you doing your math multiplication on the floor?
TINTUMON : You told me to do it without using tables!
TEACHER : Tintumon, how do you spell "crocodile?"
TINTUMON : K-R-O-K-O-D- A-I-L"
TEACHER : No, that's wrong
TINTUMON : Maybe it s wrong, but you asked me how I spell it!
TEACHER : Tintumon, what is the chemical formula for water?
TINTUMON : H I J K L M N O!!
TEACHER : What are you talking about?
TINTUMON : Yesterday you said it's H to O!
TEACHER : Tintumon, name one important thing we have today that we
didn't have ten years ago.
TINTUMON : Me!
TEACHER : Tintumon, why do you always get so dirty?
TINTUMON : Well, I'm a lot closer to the ground than you are.
TEACHER : Can anybody give an example of COINCIDENCE?
TINTUMON: Sir, my Mother and Father got married on the same day, same time."
TEACHER: Tintumon, what do you call a person who keeps on talking when
people are no longer interested?
TINTUMON : A teacher.
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